Teen dating violence is preventable and often stems from a desire to control the other person’s behavior. By understanding the warning signs of unhealthy relationships and learning how to foster emotional safety, teens, parents and caregivers can work together to promote safer, healthier connections.

Understanding teen dating violence

Teen dating violence includes harmful behaviors that occur within a current or past romantic relationship among youth.

Teen dating violence can take many forms, including:

• Physical abuse, such as hitting, pushing, or restraining.
• Sexual violence.
• Emotional or verbal abuse, such as insults, humiliation or threats.
• Economic abuse, including stealing, controlling money or resources.
• Harassment or stalking, both in person and online.

National data shows that 1 out of 12 teens has experienced physical dating violence.

Why teen dating violence awareness matters

Teaching teens what healthy relationships look like can reduce the risk of dating violence and help prevent long-term harm. Awareness helps empower teens to trust their instincts, recognize red flags, and understand that they deserve to feel safe, respected, and heard.

Warning signs a relationship may be unhealthy

It isn’t always easy to recognize an unhealthy relationship, even as adults. Some warning signs may be subtle, while others are more obvious. Signs that a teen may be in an abusive relationship include:

• Unexplained injuries.
• Sudden changes in mood, sleep or eating.
• Withdrawing from friends, family or activities they once enjoyed.
• Making excuses or blaming themselves for their partner’s behavior.
• Told who they can talk to or spend time with, or constantly ‘checked on.’
• Pressured to do things they are not comfortable with.
• Being insulted or mocked by their partner.
• Fear of upsetting their partner.

What healthy relationships look like

While it’s important to identify red flags, it’s just as critical to understand what a healthy relationship is. All relationships have ups and downs, but strong ones share common foundations built on:

• Respect for boundaries, values and individuality.
• Trust without constant monitoring or jealousy.
• Honesty and openness.
• Support for family, friendships, interests and goals.
• Fairness and shared decision-making.
• Good communication, even during disagreements.

Emotional safety is at the heart of healthy relationships. It means feeling secure enough to be yourself, share your thoughts and feelings, and be vulnerable without fear of judgment or harm.

Remember, emotional safety cannot exist in an abusive relationship.

How parents and caregivers can help

Parents and caregivers play a crucial role in helping teens recognize both healthy relationships and abuse. Open, judgment-free communication is essential, as teens are more likely to share concerns when they feel heard in a respectful, receptive environment. Tips for keeping open communication with your teen include:

• Asking open-ended questions about relationships and your teen’s feelings.
• Listening carefully without interrupting.
• Validating their emotions, even when you disagree.
• Reassuring them that they can always come to you.

Talk to your teen and make it clear that controlling or abusive behaviors are never acceptable.

There are also simple ways to give your teen privacy in their own relationships while still staying involved in their life:

• Meet your teen’s partner and quietly observe their interactions.
• Set clear expectations around dating, curfews and safety.
• Discuss boundaries and respect for personal space.

If you suspect abuse, approach the conversation calmly and focus on behaviors and actions, not blame. Reassure your teen that they are not at fault, emphasize their safety and create a plan together.

If your teen is in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.

Find help and support for teen dating violence

Teens and their parents do not have to navigate dating violence alone. Support is available through school counselors, healthcare providers, law enforcement, and local and national organizations. Many organizations provide guidance, safety planning, and resources via phone, chat, or text:

• The National Domestic Violence Hotlineis available 24/7 at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or by texting “START” to 88788.  
• The United Way Resiliency Hubs provide local information and referrals for victims, call 239-939-3112.
• Abuse, Counseling & Treatment, Inc. is a local agency serving victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking; call 239-939-2553.

For more information on resources provided by Healthy Humans Hendry-Glades please visit  HealthierHendryGlades.org.